Pain During Sex

[IronWoman]

Ok I am new to this forum but my husband comes here all the time. He said I should post my question here and see if you ladies can help me with my little problem

I recently had my first child on June 28th. He is my world. We ended up having to have an emergency c section and ever since then it hurts really bad when we have sex. My husband says that things don't feel right in there anymore. I get this feeling like carpet burn and really bad cramping in my uterus. Does anyone have any ideas for me. Is this just a phase and will go away or is there something really wrong with me because of my c section.

Any advice would be great.

[mskitty6-9]

Welcome to Pichunter...and congratulations!

I do not have children...but my recommendation is a checkup with your doctor...let him/her know how you are feeling...be specific, like you were here and let him/her help you with this...

[Evilhandedmrs]

Really should make a appt with your gyn for a check up and talk to her/him about these symptoms. It is always better to play it safe by going and asking questions. They may want to do a ultra sound just to make sure that things settled backed in to place. Please let me know how you make it and do call and make a appt.

[lauraincanada]

I would say to go see your Dr. as well. And don't let him/her fob you off with a "that's normal/suck it up".. it's not the dr's body! Get your answers. I had pain after childbirth for about 14 mos, but mine was related to a third degree tear.

The one thing I would say is possible is that breastfeeding does change the amount and nature of your own natural vaginal lubrication to a HUGE extent (don't stop though! it is the best thing for your baby!). Many women say, "use lots of lube, and then use more, and then use too much, and then maybe a bit more than that.. ". And apply internally (slosh it on!) as well as externally (ie. vaginal lips) and on him as well. Take it really slow. The other thing that was helpful for me was an externally applied topical testosterone cream prescribed by my dr. It seemed to help things?

Anyhow. Good luck. And just to say, it is hard to deal with because dr's in general don't seem much concerned with a woman's capacity to enjoy sex... I mean, I totally got the run around with my issues for a long time because it wasn't a priority to anyone but me. They just looked at me and said, "Well, it's a little pink, but all healed, looks fine, why are you complaining?". You need to really speak up for yourself to get these kinds of issues addressed.

[IronWoman]

I have a Dr. Appt set up for the 10th of December. Thank you for all your advice. Another question. My husband keeps wanting me to have anal sex with him. I don't want to because we tried it once and it hurt bad, (guess because he did not take his time). How can I get him off that idea and just leave me alone because he is not getting my anal.

[mskitty6-9]

I'm glad to hear you have an appointment...is your MD a woman?

My previous ob/gyn was male...and he rettired...and I started going to the woman who joined the practice...she was fresh off of her residency...and I never dread an
exam with her! She has had cramps, kids...and really is sympathetic...

Well, he is a guy...and they think about sex, what every 3 seconds?

I am not sure you are going to get him off the topic...

It hurt less the first time I had anal than when I lost my virginity...honest...

I have a Dr. Appt set up for the 10th of December. Thank you for all your advice. Another question. My husband keeps wanting me to have anal sex with him. I don't want to because we tried it once and it hurt bad, (guess because he did not take his time). How can I get him off that idea and just leave me alone because he is not getting my anal.

[Sunflower]

When you last tried anal, was it with the same guy? I've found that the feeling was very different from when I tried it the first time and when I next tried it with a different guy. Maybe explain to him what your experience of anal is, and that it hurt. If you agree, maybe try it when you're really relaxed and possibly with some lube. If you still don't like it after trying it with him then at least you gave it a go!

[IronWoman]

No it was with my husband when I tried anal for the first time. Lets say there was also a bottle of Jack involved. We started drinking and then tried anal. It was hurting really bad and so we quit. We had plenty of lube, but lets say my husband is very well off and I am a very petite person. It did not go over very well. So I don't know how to keep telling him that it is not for me.

[Evilhandedmrs]

I have a Dr. Appt set up for the 10th of December. Thank you for all your advice. Another question. My husband keeps wanting me to have anal sex with him. I don't want to because we tried it once and it hurt bad, (guess because he did not take his time). How can I get him off that idea and just leave me alone because he is not getting my anal.
First let me say I'm glad to here that you are going to the doc.

But second of all If you are having pain with normal intercourse right now. I would not have any anal intercourse until the doc checks you out. If your Husband has a problem send him to me and I will talk to him about this.
Well as for some advice on having anal sex it can all depend on the position , if you are relaxed and mostly on the partner. You both are going to have to learn on what works and what doesn't. Not all women
enjoy anal sex so maybe this isn't for you. You should have a empty a rectum. If there is anything close by or you are constipated it is going to hurt. I have found that if you don't plan on having anal sex that you will be more relaxed and just let everything flow.

But first you need to really get checked and heal from the child birth. this could take at least six months especially if you are breastfeeding.

If you husband really wants to talk about this with someone have him just come on here and ask . There are alot of really nice people that can give him my ideas and insight to this subject.

Good Luck sweetie and keep us informed on how you are.
"D"

[Sass]

im so never having kids!

[Evilhandedmrs]

im so never having kids!
Honey trust me once the you see that sweet little face all the pain goes away and you dont even remember it. Plus epidural are great. Dont let the horror stories of childbirth scare you. Its when they become teenagers that should scare you from having kids lmao. Trust me I have three.

[IronWoman]

Alright ladies. I am sorry I have been busy and I just wanted to give everyone and update. I went to my Dr. last week and she did a Coloposcapy (?) and I got the test results back and she said they are normal. But she is worried because my pap came back abnormal. So she wants to do another pap and if that is abnormal then another colopo. I told her she is crazy, and I am going to find another Dr. She just keeps wanting to do the same procedures over and over again. I said well none of this is helping me figure out why I am having pain during sex. She said that is not my concern. I said well it should be your concern because now I am hurting all the time. She said again that is not my concern. So my husband and I are going to find someone else.

On a lighter note. I would go through all of this again and again just to see the look on my sons face the very first time I saw him. 19 1/2 hours of labor were so worth it to see his face. You forget about everything that you had to go through once you see that little face. It is priceless.

[cookinNlookin]

Hey there,

I read your post, and would definately seek another OB/GYN, could be a number of things. You said you had an emergency C-section, it could be the scar on your uterus that is causing the pain, endometriosis is the same thing (sorta) due to scarring, this could explain the pain. Also if you so happen to have sex when you are olvulating, your cervix drops and tilts at that time, for ease of the little swimmers (isn't it cool what Mother Nature does) LOL...If there is deep penetration, especially from behind you will experience pain too.....But really need to see an OB/GYN, have another pap done, and vaginal ultrasound and see whats going on. R