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[arcadius90]

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[SSBF]

Step away from her until she has resolved her relationship with this soldier. She could be feeling guilty or she could be feeling sorry for him and thats why she is still communicationg with him. Its hard to tell...but...and this is big concern.....how comfortable are you that your relationship with her will last. The fact that she started seeing you while involved with someone else, even though he was away, says alot. And the fact that she is yo-yo ing back and forth says she is not likely to commit to either of you. Add to that her lies about communicating with him. I'd say it all adds up to someone who knows not what she wants and cannot truly give her heart. My advice is to step away...hard as it may be its the only way. She needs to come to you free and unfettered. Anything less would not be fair to you. The only things worth having in life from those you love, are those things which are given freely. Good luck.

[Kandy44]

I would ride with her...as you are the Culprid ...i know the hurt of Leaving home in the service only to find some SOB Stole my woman....no sympathy Here!

[Kandy44]

Step away from her until she has resolved her relationship with this soldier. She could be feeling guilty or she could be feeling sorry for him and thats why she is still communicationg with him. Its hard to tell...but...and this is big concern.....how comfortable are you that your relationship with her will last. The fact that she started seeing you while involved with someone else, even though he was away, says alot. And the fact that she is yo-yo ing back and forth says she is not likely to commit to either of you. Add to that her lies about communicating with him. I'd say it all adds up to someone who knows not what she wants and cannot truly give her heart. My advice is to step away...hard as it may be its the only way. She needs to come to you free and unfettered. Anything less would not be fair to you. The only things worth having in life from those you love, are those things which are given freely. Good luck.



SSBF is right....did you ever hear the Phrase set her free ....and see if ...................

[SSBF]

excellent answer SSBF!

Thank you sassy. Lessons learned the hard way

[ballarke]

Let me put my two cents in this tin can.

First of all, if you get angry that your girlfriend is communicating with her ex boyfriend, or any man for that matter, you've got the problem, and you need to evaluate why you're getting angry. The reason she's "lying" to you is because it's none of your business who she talks to. The only time it becomes your business is when infidelity becomes involved, and in this case you have not presented any evidence that she is cheating on you, only talking to her ex.

Unless you have evidence that she is cheating on you, there is nothing for you to do other than to back off and let her talk to whomever she wants. My fiancee talks to my ex girlfriend, but I don't interfere because it's not any of my business what they say or whether they talk or not. Take that stance and don't confront your girlfriend unless you have reason to believe she is cheating, which you do not. In other words, back off. You do not own her, you do not control her, she does not need your permission to talk to her ex, so drop it.

Well I'll try to keep this short. I started dating a girl back in August while her boyfriend of 3 1/2 years was in Afghanistan. She couldn't break upw ith him until he came back this past Novemeber. She broke up with him initially but then decided to stay with him until he left. Once he left she had a period of getting over it and healing or whatever. Recently due to an inside source I have been told that she has beent alking to him through e-mail. I confronted her flat out about this twice. She flat out denies it when I have been given all of the evidence. I didn't ask for it or anything. I was told by a close friend/inside source. It's entirely factual. Yet she totally lies to me about it. I have told her I don't care if she talks to him just not to lie to me about it. Also, she keeps telling him "just to let it play out and see what happens and not to interfere" What do you think is going on? What should I do here?