Doggy

[TheMessenger]

I heard it was the most enjoyable position for a woman but my girlfriend hates it, she says its painful. Any ways to make it easier, even when I go slower its uncomfortable for her. Yes we do foreplay before digging in so she is not tense.

[ballarke]

Hmm... intriguing question. Well given how young she is, I'm not sure if the pain is physical. But doggy is for a lot of women an enjoyable position because of it's deep penetration and easy rubbing against the G-spot.

One thing about this position is that you're pretty much at the mercy of the lengths of your thighs and hers. How tall are you compared to her? This might also have something to do with it, but I'm not entirely sure how you could go about fixing that. Maybe having her in the doggy position while you're standing off the bed could help to provide better alignment.

According to an article on About.com regarding pain during sex: "For some pain during sex happens as a result of pressure on particular parts of the body. It may be putting pressure on certain joints hurt, or that penetration at a certain angle is painful."

If other sex positions start to become painful for her, or already are, a trip to the gyno might not be a bad idea to rule out any medical causes. You should also read around to find various resources on the web with tips of what you can try.

[KS]

Well to be fair women are like men in the fact that they are all built differently.
What feels great for one can be painful for another.
Some women can deepthroat some can't, some like anal some find it uncomfortable.
Talk to her and find out what is best for her, a lot of women like to be on top because it gives them control over how deep it goes and also grinding is a bigger factor than the traditional in out motion that we guys prefer during sex.
The number one rule of a great sex life is always communication.
Thats my opinion anyway.
Hope that helps.

[Kandy44]

WOW...I Love Listening to all you Experts!....lol

[KS]

WOW...I Love Listening to all you Experts!....lolHey you had a doggy once didn't you brother? :finger:

[Kandy44]

Hey you had a doggy once didn't you brother? :finger:
Yup....Now all I got is Pussies!:grin: :boink: :grin:...Pussies that are Talented!

[mskitty6-9]

WOW, Ks - that may well be the best post you have ever made!!!!!

[QUOTE=KsBennett]The number one rule of a great sex life is always communication.

[mskitty6-9]

You complainin'? Hee hee...

[QUOTE=kandy44]Yup....Now all I got is Pussies!
:grin: :boink: :grin:

[TheMessenger]

We tried doggy in many different positions at all angles and heights and it still hurts. She likes to be on top but she doesnt move much when on top, maybe just an inch or two. Im not huge but I think my size is the problem.

[KS]

WOW, Ks - that may well be the best post you have ever made!!!!!Hey even I can make sense sometimes Kitty. ;)

[ballarke]

Yeah, I knew I'd rub off on him eventually.

Im not huge but I think my size is the problem.

How big are you? If this is the only position in which you're causing pain, I don't think your size is the issue.

[mskitty6-9]

Oh ballarke...

[QUOTE=ballarke]Yeah, I knew I'd rub off on him eventually.

[KS]

Yeah, I knew I'd rub off on him eventually.I hope not!!! :huh: :huh: :huh: :huh:

[Kandy44]

Oh No....Not another Ballarke......lol!...That would be Like 2 Dr. Phils!

[SSBF]

Woof woof......I do enjoy doggie style...but there is nothing like making total eye contact as he enters you....then as you and he cum.....wow

[Kandy44]

I Came Once!

[SSBF]

Did you conquer?

[TreishaLove]

It all depends on the girl.
She could just not be used to such a deep penetration
It could be that she just doesnt like it or gets herself to think that way
I would start wondering how long you two have been going at it. Its probably just a size problem no offense but i know that some guys are too large and it just hurts, but maybe its just a stretching problem and she just needs to get used to it. many girls i know take on something they arent used to and after a while eventually find it enjoyable. Just gotta to think about pleasure and get used to something a little bigger.

[TheMessenger]

It all depends on the girl.
She could just not be used to such a deep penetration
It could be that she just doesnt like it or gets herself to think that way
I would start wondering how long you two have been going at it. Its probably just a size problem no offense but i know that some guys are too large and it just hurts, but maybe its just a stretching problem and she just needs to get used to it. many girls i know take on something they arent used to and after a while eventually find it enjoyable. Just gotta to think about pleasure and get used to something a little bigger.

Im kind of flattered if its the size thing.

[ballarke]

Flattered? Why would you be flattered? Because you're so big that you're causing her pain? I wouldn't think that would be a reason for flattery.

But I highly doubt it's a size thing since you so far have us under the assumption that doggy is the only position with which she has this problem. If it were a size problem, position wouldn't matter much.

[TreishaLove]

Flattered? Why would you be flattered? Because you're so big that you're causing her pain? I wouldn't think that would be a reason for flattery.

But I highly doubt it's a size thing since you so far have us under the assumption that doggy is the only position with which she has this problem. If it were a size problem, position wouldn't matter much.


Doggy style is renown for its deep penetration so it could be size in this predicament, just that hes just at the point of being too big and when they go to a style known for its deep penetration it gets to her

[TheMessenger]

Flattered? Why would you be flattered? Because you're so big that you're causing her pain? I wouldn't think that would be a reason for flattery.

But I highly doubt it's a size thing since you so far have us under the assumption that doggy is the only position with which she has this problem. If it were a size problem, position wouldn't matter much.

Yes flattered because Im big, can last as long as I want, and can make her have an orgasm everytime.

It hurts if I stick it all in if im on top aswell, her jaw gets tense and eyes squint. We dont have the problem if shes on top though.

[Kandy44]

Yes flattered because Im big, can last as long as I want, and can make her have an orgasm everytime.

It hurts if I stick it all in if im on top aswell, her jaw gets tense and eyes squint. We dont have the problem if shes on top though.


That makes No sense?

[mskitty6-9]

Wow, SSBF...you and I think a lot alike...

and that is why missionary is soo good...the eye contact...this way you see it all...every nuance, no matter how subtle...and we can wrap our legs around and keep him close...kinda like "our prisoner"...LOL...

missionary gives you the sights, the sounds, smells, tastes...touches...it has it all...

which is not to say I do not like doggy - I DO!! And being on top...and..and.. and...

Woof woof......I do enjoy doggie style...but there
is nothing like making total eye contact as he enters you....then as you and he cum.....wow

[Jerzey]

hey messenger i had the exact same problem with my current girlfriend. i'm a little on the big side also and have great sex with my girlfriend but when it comes to doggie it used to hurt her. i did a couple things that helped her get her first orgasim from behind.

1. her in the normal position put too much pressure on her hands and arms, she put a couple pillows underneath her stomach and she said just the position in general felt 10x better.

2. never never go all the way in. when you go to far in it feels like u went past the normal vagina wall and into a big cave right? dont do that, you are going past the part that feels good for her and if you go too deep your poking her where it hurts.

3. enter slow, go slow in the beginning, then let her have it. girls love it when their man is bad from behind, say some sexy things and give her a slap on the ass, then hold on to her and really give it to her but DONT go too deep or you'll kill the whole thing. i usually go about 3/4 the way in max, ya ya i know you want to go balls deep but its different in doggie, so just wait til you flip her over and go at it again.

good luck!